How to Get the Guts to Talk to a Woman Who Knows You Like Her

Talking to a girl is just a piece of cake for some guys, but for some others, it is a big deal. The way your heart skips when you see her and your palms get sweaty and even sometimes when you have summoned the courage to talk to her, your brain goes blank and you end up saying something else. This has probably occurred to you more than once and the girl already know what you are up to but since it is not "right" especially in Africa for the girl to bell the cat, she is waiting for you to do do. Trust me, those girls are not fools. They know when a guy is up to something.
Caught in this same web, i had to do some diggings on "How to Get the Guts to Talk to a Woman Who Knows You Like Her" and i found this wonderful article written by Elise Wile. Please read to the end. It's not much. who knows, this may be your salvation.
Cheers. Lanray Michael

How to Get the Guts to Talk to a Woman Who Knows You Like Her

By Elise Wile

It’s hard enough to talk to women as it is, but when a girl already knows that you like her, it can feel as though she has the upper hand. Get a grip on your anxiety by accepting it and using a few strategies to pump up your confidence so that you can go after the lady you like with no reservations.

Accept Your Vulnerability

Part of living means embracing vulnerability and opening yourself to new experiences and emotions, says psychotherapist Glenn Peters on his personal website. Failure to do so can result in a narrow life. It is best to face the idea that the vulnerability of talking to a girl who has the power to reject you may be uncomfortable, but is the only way you will be able to get your life to move in the direction that you want. Vulnerability is uncomfortable, but uncomfortable feelings are part and parcel of life. Feel the fear and do it anyway.

Consider Past Successes

Think of a time when you have felt afraid and faced your fear, says psychologist Melanie Greenberg in the article, "The Six Attributes of Courage" on Psychology Today's website. Remember how you faced your fear and how you felt afterward. Finally, recall the skills that got you through that fearful circumstance and consider how you might apply them to coping with the anxiety of approaching the woman you like. For example, if you were once nervous about a job interview, you might recall how positive self-talk and slow, deep breaths helped you to ace the interview. Use those methods when you ask the girl you like if you can pull up a chair beside her at the coffee shop.

Shine the Light on Your Fear

Fear lives in the imagination, writes behavioral scientist Frank Niles in the article, "5 Ways to Live Courageously" in The Huffington Post. It can cause you to inaccurately predict the future and base your actions on faulty assumptions. For example, you might be sure that you will be a laughingstock if you approach the woman you like. But the reality is likely to be far different. She may like you as well. Accepting reality – whatever it may be – can remove fear’s teeth and render it benign.

Hang Out With Supportive Pals

Spend time with supportive pals to get up the nerve to do something that makes you quake in your boots, advises Niles, who points out that such people are effective at relieving anxiety. Get a pep talk from your friend who will tell you, “You’re a ladies’ man waiting to happen, so go out there and put your magnetic powers to work!” Just knowing that someone else believes in you can help you to believe in yourself even when it’s difficult.